Tuesday, 19 February 2008

What is Love ?

My girlfriend is gonna screw me for this blog. LOL. She mite become paranoid of my "constant love" towards her. We had a discussion regarding love, according to her "love" of a person towards another person should be constant through the life. Mite be the person be your husband/wife, father/mother, friends. First of all what is love? After lot of introspection, I just concluded what is love? (Highly subjective). Why don't we fall in love with any one, why don’t we fall in love with mentally handicapped person, physically handicapped person, with a irritating person, with a boring person, with your maid/servant, with any people of other religion, with lower caste people, with people who doesn’t match your mentality, with your enemies, with some prostitute, with people having bad looks, with person who doesn’t earn, with fat people, with people with same sex, with a psycho, why, why why? Why we want the person whom we love to care for us, should earn good amount money, should have respectable position, should be intelligent, should be smart, should be handsome/beautiful, should have good figure/physic, should be fair, should have good speech, show affection towards us, should not be addictive to smoke, should not be addictive to alcohol, should not have bad habits, why, why why? Isn't that all selfish. LOVE IS SELFISH. In the category of selfishness it holds the paramount position, which people don’t realise.

Why you love your friends, boyfriend/girlfriend is because of your selfishness. Then how can selfishness be constant throughout your life? Your selfishness keeps on changing throughout your life. What happens if your boyfriend/girlfriend physically and mentally abuses you thorough your life, still then your love will be constant for him/her. What happens if your bf/gf discards you, then also your love will be constant for him/her. What happens if your spouse tells that he/she won’t have sex with you any more throughout the life, still then your love will remain constant (If not then its lust, again highly subjective). Why is love so much demanding? Why does your bf/gf want you to give him/her paramount importance? Why are you so much possessive about your gf/bf? What happens if you suddenly see your gf/bf talking away to glory with opposite sex at a restaurant? Doesn’t that hurt you? Aren’t you selfish, aren’t you egoistic.

If you think this selfishness is ok, normal then all kind of selfishness and egoism should be ok. A person who is highly selfish should not be considered as a bad guy. A person, who doesn’t help others, backstabs at his friends/colleagues for his/her own benefit should not be considered bad person. A politician who makes people fight/hate each other on basis of religion/caste/language for his own selfish interest shouldn’t be considered bad. A person who doesn’t follow traffic rules for his own selfish interest shouldn’t be considered bad. A person who kills somebody else for his own selfish interest shouldn’t be considered as bad person.

Aren’t we been hypocrite by showing different attitude to different type of selfishness.

Mite be I m cynic, but that’s my perspective.

Anyway hail LOVE, that is one of the most beautiful thing ever to happen to me, even though selfish. And I am enjoying it.

12 comments:

ruSh.Me said...

Finally, Satan proclaims Love...!!

But then again the ethereal question.. What is Love!!!

According to Tina, a 7 year old girl "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday...."

now she didnt tell, if the guy was short, fat, ugly, handicapped!!! People with all sorts find a Mate. Despite of the other person being functionally normal!! Though such person are BARELY COUNTABLE, but they DO fall in love with no-so-perfect person!!

AS far love being selfish, I would hold a different opinion... You would love some for your happiness.. but doesn't the other situation hold true also... Someone said, "I love you so much, I can let you go!!!" Isn't letting the one you love let go off, the most satisfying feeling of all?!!!?

Obviously, People can never give any reason why they love someone.... may be love is just an entity not to be defined by words!!
Constant Love should not be defined!!!

Satan said...

According to Tina, a 7 year old girl "Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday...."

now she didnt tell, if the guy was short, fat, ugly, handicapped!!!


Isnt that been selfish. Tina love when she likes the person shirt. What happens if she doesnt like person's shirt, ofcourse she wont love him. Its pure selfishness from her side.

Someone said, "I love you so much, I can let you go!!!" Isn't letting the one you love let go off, the most satisfying feeling of all?!!!?

Most satisfying feeling !!! huh? Isnt this selfishness. You are doing this act of letting go, to satisfy your self.

Love is selfish my dear friend.

ruSh.Me said...

Like Satan!!! Cant u find Optimism in any Human Act???

First of all, u didn't even get the message of the Shirt-thingy!!.... The guy wears the shirt everyday to make the girl happy....!!! coz he loves her...!! LOL.... ;-) Not the other way around

and second, letting the person go..will make u UNHAPPY....so now will a SELFISH makes make self UNHAPPY....!!!?????

What wrong with ur Logics, Satan!!????

Satan said...

The guy wears the shirt everyday to make the girl happy....!!! coz he loves her...!! LOL....

Why he wants to make her feel happy? Because he will feel happy to see her happy. Isnt he selfish? And if her mood doesnt make any different to him, they he wouldn't wear same shirt everday. (Ratinally thinkin, the guy has just one shirt, and we are mistaking it for love. LOL!!! By the way who the hell is this tina)

and second, letting the person go..will make u UNHAPPY....so now will a SELFISH makes make self UNHAPPY....!!!?????

Now in your first comment you only mentioned that " Isn't let one go one of the most satisfying feeling of all" So for his/her satisfaction the person is lettin is love to go. Any y is he/she is letting her/him go, so as to make the other person feel happy? so that the other person wont get hurt because of him/her. Otherwise he/she will fell bad, that the other person is unhappy becuase of him/her. Thats selfishness.

You are just typing some sentence, but why that person has said such kinda sentence who are not thinkin abt that.

Satan said...

There is certain mistake in the grammar and vocabulary of the above post. Reader is advised not to be skeptical about the commentor's English.

Thank you

sakshi said...

Why to argue on things that does not even exist... Love does not exist... Every relation these days have a reason behind its existence.. Be it parents-child, g.f - b.f, husband - wife... Few reasons are : Fear of loneliness, fear of not able to extend their family, for show-off, to be part of society and so on......

If the person is pleasing u by meeting all ur demands, wishes, live according to u, u r happy and start liking or loving that person...

But the very moment the person starts keeping their point of view or start going against ur wishes, the so called LOVE starts disappearing and after some span of time its gone....

Even if LOVE exist, its just with yourself... Hence u say love is selfish.. every relation is selfish.. That's y we r human and not saint or god....

Satan said...

Good one sakshi, n thnks for not been anonymous this time

Anonymous said...

Selfish love is just rationality and/or hedonism parading as 'love'. True love is addiction, it's insanity, it's when you find a part of you in someone else, it's when you come undone in front of this someone else, and you become each other. Or they rip your heart to shreds and then it sucks.

Phoenix said...

:)
Love is selfish. That is why it hurts. And it makes us pay back by grinding all ego to zilch.
Love is essential to life. :)

Keshi said...

I disagree Satan. Love is never selfish. people are.

Keshi.

Satan said...

Love is the feelin developed by the people,

So if people are selfish then even the feelin developed by them is selfish

coffeeismypoison said...

ha...hahah...am laughing at u and rush.me fighting like an old married couple. I can totally see u in 50yrs, waving ur walking sticks at each other!! false teeth clicking and clashing and drool spraying all over the place :D
But ur right, love is selfish.
but she's right too... letting the person u love go, may hurt...but its satisfying. when they have a nice time with ppl who do not include U it hurts...but u still let them know ur happy at least they're having a nice time.