Homosexuality: Nature or nurture?

This is an article which I read in Sunday times of pune edition yesterday, so felt like sharing with you guys. Does homosexuality arise from nature or nurture? It's an argument that has raged around the world for a long time. But scientific research increasingly seems to be tilting the debate in favour of nature. In case of male conjoined twins, if one is homosexual, the other is likely to show similar tendencies, although the same may not hold true in case of females. In 1991, Boston University psychiatrist Richard Pillard and Northwestern University psychologist J Michael Bailey found that in identical twins, if one twin was gay, the other had about a 50% chance of also being gay. In 1993, Harvard-trained researcher Dean Hamer found that gay brothers shared a specific region of the X chromosome, called Xq28, at a higher rate than gay men shared with their straight brothers. Shortly thereafter, Newsweek ran a cover story on the subject, 'Gay Gene?'. Then, in the midst of a landmark legislation battle in the state of Colorado which raised the question of whether homosexuality was normal, innate and unchangeable, a prominent researcher testified, "I am 99.5% certain that homosexuality is genetic." In 1994, two Canadian researchers discovered a statistical relationship between the number of ridges on men's fingertips and homosexuality, contributing additional evidence to the theory that sexual orientation can be influenced by biological events that occur at conception or early in fetal life. J A Y Hall and D Kimura of the University of Western Ontario examined the fingerprints of 66 homosexual and 182 heterosexual men, comparing the number of ridges on the index finger and thumb of the left hand with the number of ridges on the index finger and thumb of the right hand. If the number of ridges on the index finger and thumb of the left hand exceeds the number of ridges on the index finger and thumb of the right hand, one's fingerprints are said to exhibit leftward directional asymmetry. Hall and Kimura found such leftward directional asymmetry in the fingerprints of 30% of their homosexual subjects versus 14% of their heterosexuals. "Some may refute such theories but they essentially point to the fact that homosexuality is, to some extent, determined even before a child is born," says gay activist Ashok R Kavi, who runs Humsafar Trust. "Another study has found that in case of males, if there is less testosterone (male hormone) secretion during the development stage, they may have some girlish traits, and could even be attracted to boys. Daryl Bemm, a psychology professor at New York's Cornell University, had propounded a theory that hormonal levels are the causes of homosexuality," adds Kavi. Interestingly, zoologists have discovered that homosexual and bisexual activity is not unknown within the animal kingdom. Experts say that all in all, as many as 1,500 different species of birds and animals are known to have displayed homosexual behavior. Researcher and author Bruce Bagemihl documented such characteristics among birds, mammals and insects in his book Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity, published in 1999. "No species has been found in which homosexual behavior has not been shown to exist, with the exception of species that never have sex at all, such as sea urchins and aphis. Moreover, a part of the animal kingdom ishermaphroditic, truly bisexual. For them, homosexuality is not an issue." That was the verdict of Petter Beckman, academic adviser for the 'AgainstNature?' exhibit - an exhibition on homosexuality in animals in The Natural History Museum, University of Oslo, Norway to illustrate that it is not unnatural. So, if homosexuality can be the result of genetics, and if it exists throughout the animal kingdom, logically it cannot be unnatural. But the Indian legal system thinks otherwise. As per section 377 of the Indian Penal Code, any intercourse which goes against the "law of nature" is illegal. But what exactly does the term mean? Some would argue that it is adapted from the religious belief that intercourse that doesn't lead to procreation is unnatural. But by that definition, apart from homosexuality, all other forms of non-reproductive sexual activities become unnatural, including contraception. Says gay activist Lesley Esteves, "We are born this way, we are not perverts. People have to understand that it's not a matter of choice to get attracted to someone from the same sex or from the opposite sex. And it doesn't have only sexual connotations. The relationship between two people from the same sex could be equally romantic as that between a man and a woman. So classifying us as criminals and penalizing us under section 377 is very unfair to us." An 18-year-old, who has "just discovered" his sexuality and found out that he gets attracted to "his types" more than to girls, says: "I am feeling very apprehensive about my future. If society and laws don't penalize someone born a eunuch, why are people like us singled out?"

Virtual World !!!

Well this post I am writing on my experience as well as seeing other people’s experience on extensive use of virtual world for personal satisfaction.

Well this post is not on people who talk with their “real” friends through internet, but this is on people who try to make friends (well I think everyone try to make b.f/g.f thru it) and also people who write their personal experiences on their blog.

Y do people do this? Well if I conclude these kinda people who extensively are hooked up to virtual world, have certain flaws in them. I cannot describe the flaw, but it is something due to which they cannot find themselves attractive enough to stimulate opposite sex. And the easier medium for them is “virtual world”.

Well chatting is dimensionless. People can’t see your flaws and you can easily camouflage you flaws on Internet. You can talk with confidence with the opposite sex cause neither they can see you or cant recognize your flaws. But ultimately they don’t realize that they meet people in real world and have to live life in the real world. So instead of taking shortcut and finding friends in virtual world, I can suggest them to find their flaws and improve upon them so that they can make friends in the real world who are more reliable and honest compared to friends in virtual world.

Also people share their personal experience on blogs. Well I have lot of friends with whom I can share things with them, so I don’t require the help of blog to share things with persons whom I hardly know. Yeah they can comment, but they hardly know me and which kinda situation or circumstances I hve been through, so I wont find their comment quite related to me. I think this kinda people want to communicate with strangers and share things with them cause somewhere in real world they cant do it. They hve certain flaws which are keeping themselves away from the real people of real world.

So I don’t know whether these people (these people, I think I am categorizing them LOL) should introspect the role of virtual world in their life. They shud concentrate on the flaws in them cause of which they have got hooked up to virtual world and try to improve the flaws to have better life in real world.

LoVe

Love is easy to fall into
Hard to maintain it
Harder to understand it.............

HoNeStY

Well ur in a relationship and u have or had done sumthin wrong which will extremly hurt ur partner. So wht will you do? B honest and tell her/him everything at that moment only or you would tell him/her but after sum time. But wont been honest after some time is a wrong stuff. Means u know after few months or years if u say it wont make much difference , but according to me thats not been honest. Will u accept the honesty of your partner if he/she says she has done sumthing wrong after say couple of months or years?

Whats your TaKe?

What parameters do you look in your g.f/b.f?

Well I look for followin parameters (in ascending order).....

1. Rational
2. Trustworthy
3. Maturity
4. Shud hve high acceptance level, so tht I can share nething with her.
5. Good General Knowledge
6. Responsibility
7. Unorthodox
8. Rebellious
9. Understandin
10. Bloggin
11. Good at bed
12. Emotional
13. Caring
14. Arrogance
15. Good communication
16. Good dressin sense
17. Smoker n drinker (ocassionally is also done)
18. Looks
19. Vital Stastictics

Last but not the least she shud love me , LOL.

Neway above points r subjective. N the points from 12th to 19th can b lil bit compromised by me. It depends how intense 1th to 11th points are.

So whtz ur parameters???

MALE CHAUVINIST

Well it has 10 days since I m here in Switzerland, and the trip has been quite borin as usual. Neway fortunately or unfortunately sum of my colleagues of Rieter India (of sum other branch) hve landed up here.

Last Sunday as I had sum work so I stayed back at my hotel, reading sum technical documents. So in afternoon one of my colleagues came to meet at my hotel room (on later on part I will refer him as MCP (Male chauvinist pig) which my sweetheart calls me affectionately x-( )

MCP: Hi vishal how r u
Me: Well fine as usual

After sum trivial talks

Me: Uhh do u hve ne g.f?
MCP: Nope, but I m getting married by December, hve fixed a girl!!
Me: fixed a girl (wht a fuckin language is he talking). Ahh very good, congratulations

After sum discussion abt the girl her whereabts n wht she is doin etc

Me: Errr do u expect ur wud b wife to b VIRGIN? (I dunno y I asked him this question)
MCP: Wht the hell are you talking, of course she shud b virgin
Me: Ahh hmm y?
MCP: Wht y, cause I m virgin so she shud b.
Me: Wow wht an answer , oh ya ur rite, hmmm wud u expect her to u abusive words, like normally guys do or even u do?
MCP: Ofcourse not
Me: Good , aaah do u expect her to smoke as u?
MCP: Are u gone mad vishal, of course not
Me: BTW y r u marryin?
MCP: To get over my lonliness, and for sum sex too
Me: Wht the fuck, Oh good ya UR RIGHT!!!


I dunno why males in INDIA are so chauvinist… Why they expect their wife’s to be virgin, shud utter only good worlds , shud not smoke, booze wht ever in short shud have good qualities of “adarsh bahu”, while they can do whtever they want.

As I m virgin, hence she shud b virgin. Now wht kinda answer is tht. Why is ur morality or character a benchmark for her. She shudnt smoke, why the hell she shudnt when u can smoke?

And I m marrying to get over my loneliness and as I m deprived of sex these many years. Now all my fundamentals of marriage got just fucked up by this answer.

Y do u marry? For sex? For removing ur loneliness? Mite b they can b one of the parameters for getting married but certainly not the only parameters.

Neway I didn’t talk much with him after tht day after knowin his mentality.

FREEDOM

M. F Hussain's Painting of INDIA.

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